One of the obstacles to taking action on your goals and solutions generated using visual techniques (or any other technique for that matter) is your own vulnerability, whether ‘you’ are an individual or an organisation. The very fact that you have brainstormed a new future or solution to a problem means that you want something to change. You want something to be different. But we all know how hard it can be to enact change. Many, many books have been written on the subject. In fact a quick search on Amazon books under ‘change’ returned 126,824 results! I came across a book earlier this year called Immunity to Change written by Harvard psychologists Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey which aims to help people and organisation overcome their ‘immunity’ (or resistance) to change. I enjoyed it so much I have signed up to take part in an online course Kegan is running via EdX, an online higher education collaboration by Harvard and MIT which commences in January 2014. But what if you don’t want to sift through 126,824 books on the subject or even read a book at all? what if you don;t want to go on a Change Management course?
The main reason we are so resistant to change is fear. Fear of failure, fear of making ourselves vulnerable. When we are setting goals and developing solutions to problems the thing that so often stops us taking those first action steps is that fear. What if the bank manager turns us down for the business loan? What if our boss ridicules our proposed solution? What if we make a fool of ourselves when we put ourselves out there? What about those inner or outer critics that are intent on knocking our confidence? What will they say?
One of the things we can do is to build our resilience. If we build our resilience we can embark upon our action steps safe in the knowledge that even if we do fail, get turned down, knocked back, criticised or even ridiculed, we can pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and carry on. It is virtually impossible to guarantee our future success. All the self-confidence, positive thinking and belief in the Law of Attraction in the world cannot guarantee our success – just ask the Thomas Edison’s of the world*. Instead of fearing failure, knock back and criticism we can build our resilience to these inevitable facets of life. This isn’t about expecting failure and thinking the worst – it is about being confident in our abilities to achieve our goals and confident in our abilities to handle our set backs. We have to make ourselves vulnerable because without doing so we will never take risks and all change involves an element of risk.
In the next post I will show you how, using a very simple visual technique, you can build your resilience.
*Thomas Edison was famous for failing 10,000 times before finally inventing the lightbulb.